Week Five Questions

  1. Jim Wilder describes joy as being “the sparkle in someone’s eye.”
    • When in your life have you experienced someone genuinely delighted to be with you?
    • How did that affect you
  2. Looking at the maturity stages, were there any personal tasks or development areas that stood out to you as something you may not have fully learned growing up?
  3. Fear bonds form when relationships are driven by anxiety and the need to avoid pain.
  4. Have you ever noticed fear-based patterns in your relationships (including marriage)?
    • What did those look like?
  5. Love bonds are built on safety, honesty, and joy.
    • What would it look like for your marriage or relationships to move more toward love bonds instead of fear bonds?
  6. Jesus teaches that following Him involves denying ourselves and taking up our cross.
    • What might “dying to the flesh” look like in your marriage during moments of conflict?
  7. The lesson suggests that true love bonds grow when both spouses seek God first.
    • How does focusing on your relationship with God change the expectations you place on your spouse?
  8. The lesson suggests that true love bonds grow when both spouses seek God first.
    • How does focusing on your relationship with God change the expectations you place on your spouse?
  9. Where in your marriage do you see the greatest opportunity to move from a fear-based pattern toward a love bond?
  10. What would it look like this week to rely more on your relationship with God rather than expecting your spouse to meet a need only God can fully satisfy?